Relationships with a married man have long ceased to amaze modern society. If earlier this could greatly damage your reputation, now it can raise several questions from people.

Can the relationship between a married man and a woman be considered "pretend love"?

Previously, it was believed that love lives only between two people, in the future they consciously legitimize their union, children appear. However, if we take into account the fact that the number of men on the planet is much less than women, then every representative of the male half has a chance of love on two fronts.

A man is always the initiator of a relationship. The first step on the way to acquaintance, the first act of kissing, bringing closer to sexual intercourse. The woman's task is only to give a hint that she wants it. And women's things are very insidious - just one playful look, a smile and a man can easily forget about what loyalty is.

A man is not looking for love on the side, but an outlet. If in the family he begins to feel disadvantaged - for example, eternal scandals over the lack of money, a wife who is trying to be in charge in everything. All this greatly infringes upon male dignity, and he is trying to look elsewhere for the necessary harmonious balance.

Or another frequent example - when a woman after childbirth, in caring for a child begins to lose not only her attractive appearance before the wedding, but also forgets about her husband, that he also needs love and affection, as well as sexual pleasures at night ... Over time, partners cease to excite each other, and the man himself begins to look for how to make up for the lack of sex with other women.

What can push a woman or a young lady into this kind of relationship? Indeed, from the very beginning of this whirlwind romance, it is clear that such relationships in very rare cases end happily, and most often people scatter when they took everything they need from each other.

For a woman, a married man is considered a gallant gentleman, such one already knows how to look after, where to invite, what to give.

For a young lady, a man is like a "sponsor" for her life. He dresses her, buys gifts, takes her to restaurants, and she gives her love and affection. Everyone seems to be happy.

According to psychologists, free women decide on such a relationship, because they themselves are panicky afraid to marry someone. This may also be related to trauma from deep childhood. If, for example, the child grew up without a father or their relationship with the mother was very strained and in order to now protect herself from this in the present, she prefers.

Here the situation is identical with the male one - the lady lacks attention and care in her family. And who, if not a lover, will help solve all these problems. After several years of marriage, she may feel desirable again.

However, such an alliance is doomed to quick failure, since a woman will be afraid that acquaintances, friends will see her, tell her husband.

Benefits of being in a relationship with a married man

• the opportunity to improve your living conditions;
• the ability to maintain freedom and independence from marital ties, but at the same time always have a permanent sexual partner. And in parallel, you can always look for a man suitable for life;
• for married ladies, this is a good opportunity to regain its faded attractiveness, add thrill and variety to family life.

The cavalier does not always act as vile in such situations. Many women enjoy such sensations - meeting in snatches, quick kisses, passionate love, fear of not getting caught by anyone.

Therefore, positive and beneficial aspects can be found for both representatives.

Cons of such a relationship

The main advice of psychologists is: "Do not build any illusions." Even if a man swears eternal love to you and says that he will divorce over time. Do not believe it! This will never happen. There he has a family, children, parents on both sides, who will immediately hate him. And here is just fleeting love, with which the soul and body rest.

A mistress can eventually tell her wife everything herself. Every day, evening, when the man leaves, the mistress will represent him in the arms of his wife and this can even lead to a nervous breakdown, it is very difficult to be in a love relationship on the sidelines.

The life of a mistress is always sad. It is not with her that a man spends holidays, vacations, it is not with her that he can appear in any crowded place and just take a walk. She cannot meet his parents and introduce her to her. He cannot dream of a wedding with him, and even more so for children. And at one point a woman will think about whether she needs such a relationship. After all, being a mistress is still humiliating.

The reasons are as follows:

• Complete confidentiality. A free lady can at one moment forget about all the secrecy of the relationship and accidentally send her lover a love message, which, of course, can be read by the lawful wife and a terrible scandal will flare up. A married woman cannot afford it. Moreover, her phone at home is always completely password protected from prying eyes.
• An unmarried woman may at one point begin to ask to leave her wife and even start quarrels about it. But a married woman does not need this and this connection, on the contrary, gives her a lot of pleasant emotions and originality in a relationship.
• Even if a woman becomes pregnant, the married woman will not tell her husband about it and in most cases will lie that this child is the fruit of their joint love. But with a free mistress, such a move will not work and there will be a lot of trouble.
• For a married woman, gifts are not important and many are even against it. After all, what can she say to her husband about that? And this is another plus of such profitable savings in relationships.
• Do not be afraid to catch any sexually transmitted disease. The legal wife is cleaner in this matter, and the mistress can have a dozen more of the same sexual partners.

From all this, it can be understood that such a relationship can only suit a woman who has a family, husband, children. After all, going in search of a mistress, a man is driven only by a sexual instinct and least of all by a desire for some seriousness.

That is why such a connection is always fragile and not durable. So why join it? He may initially try to protect himself from such men.

For a man who enters into a relationship with his mistress, life begins to play with new colors - new sensations, pleasures, emotions. For a woman, life stops. Remember that the time spent with an unnecessary person can never be returned. And everyone wants to find love, that one and only, to give birth to children. But neither the one nor the other, a married man is never able to give.

There are some psychological tricks that can help maintain a longer relationship, and maybe even help take a man out of the family, namely:

• You should never talk to him about his family, much less criticize his wife. Whatever the relationship between them, in the soul of a man, the instinct of a defender of the family will always work.

Yes, he can complain about his life with her, constant quarrels, conflicts, but in such a situation it is better to just pretend to be a "vest", and not give any advice or express your opinion.

Over time, a man can say how understanding you are and how good it is for him to be around.

• You shouldn't put pressure on a man. They don't like being led. Think for yourself: he himself ran away from the family from the "commander in a skirt", but here he sees the same thing. There is no place for conversation in bed, and it is for affection that he comes to you.

It is better to say how you love him, what he is the most gentle, sweet, strong and beautiful. This will increase his self-esteem.

• Constantly learn the basics of sex. You even have to become a professional in this art. It was sex that the man in the family lacked, and for it he came to his mistress. You also need to be able to seduce, and every day in a new way especially.

When a woman gets tired of that uncertainty in the existing relationship, then her head begins to visit thoughts about breaking this connection. But what about the heart? If it loves and wants to be with this person.

The main thing is not to bring to such a critical situation when the mind turns off, the nerves will not stand it, and a huge scandal will arise. It will only bring you wasted health. Believe me, even if his wife finds out about everything, over time they can make peace, forgive each other. But the mistress will be left alone, with a broken heart and soul.

Such a man is not needed to take him away from the family. Even if you achieve the desired result and marry him. Will there be trust in the family? As the saying goes, if a man has cheated once, he will cheat both the second and the third time. This is already like an incurable diagnosis. And the man will sweetly "sing in the ears" to the new mistress, just like you once did. Such a man does not know how to solve the problems that have arisen in the family, he runs away from them, trying to hide under the new wing of a pretty passion.

If, after thinking everything over, the desire to continue such a relationship has disappeared, then decide how you will end this relationship.

You can do this gradually - minimize meetings, answer calls less often, be cooler in conversations and in meetings.

You can cut off all the ends of the connection at once - change the phone number, address and just get lost from the man's field of vision. He will never seek, he absolutely does not need it.

There is another way - to arrange quarrels from scratch, demand to change the relationship and the womanizer will disappear in a couple of days. He doesn't need the same problems in life again.

It is important to understand what the woman herself wants - pure love, family, children? Then a married man will never be the right option.

For such a gentleman, a woman will always remain a mistress, a toy in the sexual pleasures of his boring and monotonous family life.

Therefore, do not waste your precious time. Life goes on very quickly and when a woman is young she can still find happiness. It is much harder to do this when the years have been wasted and will never be returned.

Whatever morality, foundations and norms of behavior dictate to us, connections outside of marriage have always existed. In harsh Puritan England and in the cheerful court of Louis XIV, women and men fell in love equally recklessly, without bothering to first check whether the subject of passion had a soul mate. And then they suffered, were jealous, tormented by doubts ... But in most cases the result was one, and two people who met at the wrong time dispersed forever. And you were not spared by this cup? Well, we will look for the least painful ways out of the impasse.

Psychologists have written masses of scientific treatises about why men have intrigues on the side, and will write as many more. Here and the desire to unwind from the family routine. And a midlife crisis, when a mistress is a means for a husband to prove to himself that he is "still wow." And the pursuit of sensations is a light "peppercorn", the danger of being caught adds a sharpness to the relationship, which has not been felt for a long time in the insipid family life. Yes, and no one denies sincere feelings to the stronger sex. Indeed, it happens: the old love is gone, the new one shone on the horizon ... Yet a man rarely regards a relationship on the side as something serious with far-reaching consequences..

With women, it's the other way around. We leave aside the young "sharks", aiming to pick up a wealthy sponsor and squeeze out of him as much material wealth as possible - from the first days of communication, they perfectly understand what they are doing, and do not need the help of a psychologist. We are talking about ordinary, "average" women who are ready to stay in the status of a mistress for years, be content with humiliating dates stealthily and spend lonely evenings in front of the TV while a man returns home to his lawful wife and children. Why are they doing this?

• Love... Feelings are not in vain compared to strong wine: it struck in the head, whirled, completely turned off logic along with the ability to reason coldly and sensibly ... And neither the wife nor the children seem to be an obstacle anymore. How, after all, you have "the same, real"! Who else but women know what is intoxication with the senses?
• Fear of loneliness... When time goes by, and the long-awaited prince is hopelessly lost somewhere on the way to you, it begins to seem that it is better to have some man nearby than no one at all. Maybe it will work out ...
• "His family has long been a fiction." And here the don Juans themselves are trying, painting in paints to the naive listener the sorrowful details of their life. And with his wife, they have long been the same as neighbors, and only children connect them, and in general a trip to the registry office for divorce is not far off, that's just ... “Wait until the kids grow up” to the unknown illness of the spouse, who is not a man to leave alone in such a situation.

Reasons to break up: pros and cons

Or maybe it is not necessary to break off the relationship? It happens that a man leaves the family, and two loving hearts finally begin to beat next to each other. Let it be rare, even in 10 cases out of a hundred! What if it is you and your beloved who are destined to get into the coveted top ten? ..

Of course, you can take a chance. If you are ready:

• wait a certain number of years for a man to gather courage;
• diligently adjust your life to the schedule and desires of the chosen one, not being able to demand the same for yourself - after all, he has “circumstances!”;
• for the rest of your life, carry the brand of a homewrecker on yourself,

- then the relationship can be continued indefinitely. True, you have to come to terms with the fact that the long-awaited divorce may never happen, while your best years will be missed. And keep in mind the option in which a man, having lived with you for a couple of years, will return to his abandoned family. (According to the same harsh statistics, 70% of husbands do this - after all, everything there has long been known, familiar and worn out, and with you you need to start building a life together from scratch) /

Psychologist's view

A relationship with a married man is fraught with a number of problems.

First. They initially bear the stamp of something illegal. Even if you profess the principle "in love, all means are good," the realization that because of you someone else's family is crumbling, will poison thoughts at least on a subconscious level. The proverb about happiness, which is not built on other people's tears, is not in vain.

Second. An affair with a married man in 90% of cases is doomed to failure. And deep down, many young ladies are aware of this report! Therefore, such a passion, in addition to external pleasant moments, brings a lot of disappointments, bitter nocturnal thoughts and mental wounds.

Finally, the status of a mistress greatly undermines a woman's peace of mind. She does not go with her chosen one to corporate events - a man comes there with his wife. Can't introduce him to friends and parents. She does not have clear plans for the future, confining herself to the vague "when we will be together ..." At the same time, the lady is deprived of flirting, pleasant courtship from young people, dating - everything that so raises women's self-esteem - the lady is deprived, because she feels "busy". As a result, it turns out that there is a man and, as it were, not. Relationships are there, but without real emotional return and warmth. As for how everything will end, there are big doubts ... What kind of female happiness is there?

Breaking a long-term relationship with a man you really love is never easy. I want to wait; give yourself and him a little more time; believe that something is about to change and your loved one will always be with you ... Do not be fooled. If a man is ready to leave his wife, he does it quickly, if not, never. Look around! Why did you decide that it was on this person that the white light converged like a wedge? The person who makes you smart, attractive and self-sufficient! - to play such a humiliating role? Maybe you should value yourself a little more and look for someone who will not run on dates secretly from his wife, but will surround you with well-deserved care and love and give you a full-fledged family?

Every woman dreams of being happy. For some it is an interesting job, for others it is traveling. But still, almost everyone dreams of a happy family. A caring husband, healthy, cheerful children, a cozy home ... Only sometimes it happens that a beloved man already has a family. And there is a house and children. Being in a relationship with a married man is not an easy burden.

Lover and mistress

Mistresses are not always unhappy. There are women who quite deliberately make a connection with a married man. And this state of affairs suits them quite well. Let's say a married lady is just looking for pleasure on the side. A man with a family is ideal for such purposes. He will be careful and prudent, he will not bother with calls and SMS. It would never occur to the father of the family to drop in to his beloved to have a serious talk with her husband. A highly functional relationship in which both partners are looking for what they lack in marriage. Adrenaline, romance, intimate moments that are unacceptable for a spouse.

The second option is the classic mistress. A beautiful well-groomed girl who is just looking for a "sponsor". She is interested not so much in a man as in his wallet, so whether he is married or not is not so important. Nothing personal, just business. And if such a girl decides to take a man out of the family, it will not be because of suddenly flared up feelings. It is, rather, a raider takeover, not a love drama. And why? After all, a lover can always be changed to a richer or more attractive one, and a divorced man will pay alimony and help his ex-wife.

Option for singles

A business woman is also not always eager to get married. If a woman is comfortable with her own life, but just wants to have a non-binding romance, a relationship with a married man is ideal. Stable, comfortable, hassle-free communication that will not cause any inconvenience.

A married man will not be jealous of hobbies and work, he does not need to wash and cook - there is a legal spouse for this. Lovely conversations, joint dinners in some uncrowded cafe and high-quality sex - all that such a mistress needs from a partner. And marriage is not included in her plans at all.

Is it easy to be a lover

But the cases when a lady agrees to the role of a mistress, without pretending to be more, is rather an exception than a rule. The attitude of a married man to a woman can be just fabulous - care, material assistance, bouquets every weekend. But this is not what the ladies need. They dream that one day the beloved will divorce the hateful wife and marry. Maybe not now, maybe later, but he will definitely marry. They have been waiting for this for years, hoping for happiness.

Such a relationship requires a great deal of patience and self-denial from a woman. It is necessary to be constantly, at every moment in "combat readiness". What if he calls right now? What if he will find a free minute and come in? Or maybe, on the contrary, he will make an appointment, but will not come, because I had to go to my mother-in-law for dinner ... I have to resignedly listen to endless complaints about my wife, stories about children, when any mention of someone else's family is echoed in my soul with deep pain. Letting go of a loved one, each time realizing that he is leaving for another woman. Kisses her in the hallway, eats her dinner, goes to bed with her. It's very hard.

Men are in no hurry to leave

Sometimes women start dating married men just for fun, and then the relationship drags on and does not let go. But much more often they do not even suspect that their chosen one is married. The truth comes as a shock to them. It would seem that you should immediately end your relationship with a married man. But many ladies forgive deception. They wait and hope. Such a relationship often lasts for years, leading a woman to despair.

What makes ladies to maintain a relationship with a married man? The psychology behind this connection usually has some kind of inner wormhole. A woman who is confident in herself, contented with life and her surroundings will not condemn herself to endless waiting. Yes, surely everyone will be able to name a couple of men who still left their wives for their mistresses. But this is a drop in the ocean. Usually husbands "go left" for years, but if they still decide to act, then, as a rule, they leave their mistress, not their family.

And public opinion has always condemned the "homeless women", blaming them for the destroyed family hearth. The statement is, of course, controversial.

The decision is made by a man, and if he wants to have a mistress, he will take her, not this one, so another. And if he decided to leave the family, he will leave. Maybe not even to a woman, but to my mother. Or in a hotel room, or anywhere. When the husband leaves the family, it means that the family as such has not existed for a long time. And the mistress is just a logical consequence of the current situation. The relationship of a married man to his mistress is often quite functional. She is in love. And a man, at best, is carried away and simply takes advantage of someone else's weakness.

Mistress - who is this?

And yet women are in no hurry to break off relations with a married man. Psychology explains this by some specific traits that are initially present in the character.

Chronic lovers are usually extremely insecure. The inner conviction that she does not deserve the best makes a woman transfer all her dreams and aspirations to the available man. Subconsciously, she is afraid to take risks, afraid to be all alone. At the same time, the paradox of the situation is that such a woman, to some extent, also enjoys the situation. Deeply experiencing her own imaginary unattractiveness, she seeks to prove to herself and others that she is not only no worse - better than others! And what could be a more weighty argument in such a dispute than a man reclaimed from a rival?

In addition, the status of a mistress has a certain romantic halo, albeit a very controversial one. Psychology defines a relationship with a married man as attractive precisely because of its ambiguity. On the one hand, this is proof of female attractiveness, on the other hand, it is a reason to feel like a victim of circumstances. And self-pity is a pretty good feeling. And a great excuse for any wrongdoing and blunder. “Yes, that was stupid. But how can you judge me? I'm so unhappy! "

One more last chance

Often, mistresses have been waiting for a man for years, although it seems already obvious that he is not going to leave the family. Each time there are new excuses, each time there are new arguments.

Psychology characterizes relationships with a married man as addictive. The woman gets used to it. She convinces herself to believe again, now for sure the last. Although one last one has already been. And one more. And further. After all, it seems that the goal is so close ... It is always difficult to admit your own mistakes. It's not that the man is so convincing. It's just that the woman does not want to face the truth. So much effort wasted waiting, so much nerve wasted.

And the woman tries more and more. She goes out of her way to become the best, and all in the hope that the beloved will appreciate the efforts. In this case, the man simply does not care. He is comfortable, he is comfortable with this state of affairs. Perhaps even his wife has already got used to constant infidelity and got used to it. So the unfortunate mistress is the only one who seeks to break the knot that is tightening all the tighter.

You need to break off relations decisively

Although does it really strive? Does she really need a family? If this is precisely her goal, then what prevents her from breaking off a relationship with a married man?

Then you can move on, look for someone who is ready to start a family. But the mistress does not do that. According to psychologists, this is due to the fact that in fact a woman is afraid of such responsibility and subconsciously seeks a way to avoid it. And what is better for this than hopeless love?

Those women who really want to break out of the vicious circle and go forward need, first of all, to work on themselves. Cut off all ties with your lover, change the phone number and the lock on the door. And then turn to a psychologist. Girlfriends will not help here, you need a professional. He will help you get through a difficult moment and tell you how to change yourself. Both an inferiority complex and self-doubt are just psychological problems that can and should be dealt with. Only by eliminating the internal causes, you can really change your life, create it anew.

Today, relationships outside the family are usually not terrifying. Adultery does not threaten not only with "stoning", but even with serious condemnation from friends. Nevertheless, such a connection always raises many questions and often provokes serious problems. How to deal with them? What are the tips of a psychologist, given later in the article, will help answer the questions asked.

What makes a man look for a mistress

It is so accepted in our society that a woman is most often formed on the initiative of a representative of the stronger sex. A woman can make it clear with a smile or a look that she would not mind getting to know each other, but it is the man who will take the first steps in this direction.

But sometimes, when an acquaintance has taken place and everything has gone far enough, a woman suddenly finds out that she is having an affair with a married man. What to do, and most importantly - why did he start all this?

As psychologists explain, this is most often the fault of the prevailing (or rather, not existing) relationships in the family. If a man's wife is a boss or simply, then she naturally suppresses her partner, and he, in order not to finally lose his manhood, begins to look for an outlet on the side.

But it also happens that the wife ceases to worry, the man begins to treat her, rather, as a relative. Everything in the family suits him, but sex is clearly lacking. This is also a serious reason for adultery.

Why do some ladies want to date married

But what can push a woman or a young lady to such a relationship, because she, as it will become clear later, basically does not have a future so expected by most ladies?

Relationships with a married man (the advice of a psychologist about which we are considering) for some women turns out to be very tempting. Such a gentleman, as a rule, is gallant, knows how to look after beautifully, does not skimp on compliments, gifts and looks more reliable and respectable than bachelors of all ages.

And some ladies are driven to this by the desire to assert themselves. After all, at home they no longer feel welcome, as before, and the relationship with her husband is gradually slipping into the area of ​​endless solutions to everyday problems. And here everything is like in his youth!

But there is also a category of women who are specifically looking for relationships that have no future. They are pushed to this by the experiences of childhood - either they grew up in an incomplete family, where the mother was loaded with work and could not pay due attention to the child's mental state, or the father treated his daughter with a detachment. In such cases, start a family.

Pros of a relationship with a married man

If you listen to the question: "Is it worth continuing the affair with a married man?" - the advice of a psychologist, it turns out that such a connection can be very useful for some ladies.

• For young and very poor young ladies, these relationships are often a way to improve their well-being. True, the main thing here is not to cheapen and only agree to real help and expensive gifts.
• For convinced feminists, such a connection is an opportunity to maintain freedom and independence, while having a constant sexual partner.
• In addition, a woman who has a married lover can in parallel look for a future husband for herself, without rushing at every more or less suitable one, since she is satisfied and calm.
• And for married ladies, such a relationship can add the thrill that is missing in family life and serve as a confirmation of their not extinguished female attractiveness.

As you can see, with a conscious and calm position in the mentioned connection, both a man and a woman can discover a lot of positive and beneficial things for both parties.

And now about the cons

But, as you can imagine, most often a lady's relationship with a married man is not at all rosy. Psychologist's advice here is always the same - do not create illusions by entering into such a connection. Remember:

Why are married women more willing to meet with married ladies?

There is one more nuance, without which it is difficult to understand what exactly the relationship with a married man consists of. Psychologist's advice given to women who have come to a standstill with the mentioned connection contain one important aspect: it turns out that married people are most willing to commit adultery with married persons! And, as it turns out, the opportunity to surrender to your passion comes to the fore here, practically without risking anything.

• A woman who is free from the bonds of marriage may suddenly not withstand tense expectations and begin to call him or write SMS messages at the most inopportune moment. And a lady burdened with a family, as a rule, has neither the opportunity nor the desire for this.
• An unmarried mistress may eventually begin to demand legalization of the relationship - to leave the family and marry her. And for a married woman, they are just a way to get vivid emotions and a special "peppercorn" in her life.
• A family lady, even having become pregnant from her lover, will bring her child to her husband. In a similar case, with a lonely, and even a young lady, you will not get around the hassle!
• A married woman even needs to be gifted much less often, otherwise how will she explain to her husband the appearance of more and more new jewelry!
• In addition, there is no most offensive option for communication on the side - the opportunity to catch a bad illness, because a married woman is not inclined to often change partners, and even more so to sleep with just anyone.

Why this relationship is a married lady?

A man is looking for benefits, and on what the relationship of a married woman with a married woman is built, it is simple - a woman asserts herself or compensates for what she lacks in the family.

Amorous and too emotional persons go to new ones. But most often this happens if the husband is not affectionate enough or is not able to satisfy his partner. And if a woman finds that her husband is cheating on her, then in the arms of her lover, the desire to take revenge can be thrown.

Think about it, do you need this relationship?

From all of the above, we hope you understand that a married man, going in search of a mistress, thinks least of all about creating some kind of serious relationship and dreams only of new keen feelings and sexual pleasure. That is why the relationship with a married man has no prospects and in the overwhelming majority of cases is doomed to break. So maybe you should avoid it from the very beginning? Well, of course, this does not apply to those who are light on such a connection, and those who find it very convenient for some reason.

Yes, if you are planning a relationship with a married man, what to do (to support them or not), only you will decide, but remember: too much is put on this altar. Such a relationship can only be short-lived and non-binding. Even if a miracle happens, and the beloved divorces to marry you, you can only dream of peace: after all, now your spouse can just as well leave you as soon as he feels the boredom of everyday life - he already has experience!

Long relationship with married

1. Never criticize your beloved's spouse. Even if he complains about her and talks about some misunderstandings in their life together, the man will react painfully to criticism from his mistress - after all, his wife has long been a part of him, and he constantly feels a connection with her.
2. Nobody needs to know about your relationship. After all, all this can reach the wife, and she, believe me, will be able to force her husband to stop what you value so much now.
3. Do not put pressure on your lover - men cannot stand this. Instead, constantly tell him how important he is to you and how much you love him.

And last (but perhaps most important), you will have to become a professional in everything related to sex. After all, it was his man who was looking for on the side. And if you do not amaze your partner with your ingenuity, he will eventually run away from you to the side.

How to end a relationship with a married man you love?

If you are tired of the uncertainty of relations with a married person and decide to break off relations with him, do not give up and do not bring the situation to a state where your nerves will break down and a loud scandal with breaking dishes and hysteria will break out.

To begin with, imagine that you have achieved what you want - married this man. Will you trust him? But answer this question honestly! Understand, having changed once, he will not stop before changing yet. Now for you. And he will tell the new mistress the same thing that he "sang" to you, blaming not himself for everything!

Such a man is not capable of solving conflict situations that arise over time in any family - he follows the easy path, changing partners. Do you need someone to run away as soon as the problem is brewing? If not, then part with him. Keep meetings to a minimum, and then stop answering his calls altogether. However, having felt the cold on your part, it will quickly disappear - after all, as you already know, he is not used to solving problems!

A few final words

We hope to answer the question "how to end a relationship with a married man", the psychologist's advice given above will help you. If you are waiting for real feelings, then it is important to understand how futile this relationship is and how humiliating the position of a mistress is. You deserve to be an object of true love, and not a toy in the hands of a man waiting only for pleasure. Don't waste your time, look for your real half! Good luck!

Instructions

Choose the position you are currently in. Perhaps you fell in love with a man without knowing what; or you knew that the chosen one is not free, but decided on closer contact. Another situation: you are married, he, both of you are satisfied with such a "quadrangle". And the fourth option - you do not care that he is married, for you this is a beneficial relationship.

How you should behave depends on your choice. But there are general conditions for any of the options. Having stepped on the crooked path of such a relationship, be prepared for anything. Nobody says it's hard or easy, but your goals should be clear and concise. The shaky state of "love-money-habit" sows false hopes exclusively in your bright head. For a man, the situation will be comfortable and pleasant until you claim your rights to the relationship. This refers to the way in which they will flow.

If you fell in love with a young man who was not free, try to determine whose fault you missed such an important detail. The first option - you were covered by an unearthly wave of feelings, the veil reliably covered your eyes, you yourself did not react to transparent hints. The second option is your chosen one without memory and frighten you off with such a status. The third - the man stubbornly hid the presence of a family from you until the last.

Roll up the relationship and hack off the shoulder if the status of "married" was hidden by your man. Relationships will not lead to anything good. It is a trap fueled by your hopes. Do not give slack so as not to regret spending time on someone who cannot make you happy.

If you yourself turned a blind eye to the facts, then it's time to open them and take a closer look. It's not too late to run away and forget about what happened, as if it were a dream. The chosen one has a family, a wife who loves him and values ​​him, perhaps has children. You will destroy someone else's happiness, it is difficult to build a new house on someone else's ashes.

Fight for your love if it is mutual and strong. The following advice is appropriate here: do not think about his wife, think about your relationship with him, fight for him, and, therefore, for the possibility of creating your own family. Be patient, because a loved one will not be able to destroy a family and start life over again in one day, it may take a year for this.

Be realistic, think soberly, because you knew what you were doing. Either take advantage of all that this relationship gives you, or try to get rid of it. A man, being married, allowed himself something more than flirting in your direction. If you were in the place of his wife, would you highly appreciate his act? You don't need such a lover. He is not worthy of you. You feel a feeling of being in love, and he is a feeling of greatness, having two women at the same time.

Love Quadrangle can add variety to your life. Obey the rules when playing this game. Do not be jealous, do not pry, do not get to the bottom of the truth. Privacy is your strong point. Do not share personal, do not go into details, do not make mutual friends. In fact, these are just your love joys. That's the point.

Use a married lover and know your worth when it comes to market relations. It may sound rude, but it is sobering in serious situations. A man does not promise you mountains of gold, he comes when he sees fit, shows attention and care for the mood. He uses you, you in turn use him. The opportunities that it gives. If you dream of getting the most out of such a novel, then the principle works here: "I don't hear anything, I don't see, I don't speak." The lover's legal spouse does not have to know about your existence. Otherwise, it will result in headaches and stress. Don't fall in love, lest you fail.